Magazine articles.

[Brandy]

Fauxmage has kindly given her permission for me to post some of my work here. :)

I realise that reminding vegans about compassion & environmental responsibility makes about as much sense as reminding polar bears about snow & ice! Nevertheless, I think – or hope – that you will find my articles of interest.

(That’s an occupational hazard, by the way; all writers assume that people will find their work of interest. That particular egocentricity probably develops as a defense mechanism in response to having their work criticized and rejected. A writer needs to have a hide like a rhino.)

If anyone is offended by my articles, I would greatly appreciate it if they would take issue up with me in private and not in this thread. :no:

On the other hand, I would be delighted to discuss spiritual beliefs, experiences & philosophy with you folks. :agree:

[Brandy]

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[Gliondrach]

Great piece of writing. The message about compassion should be able to reach anyone who is open to it. I can't comment on the tree incident as I don't believe in reincarnation. I'm not too sure about communication with trees, either. But I do have a vague half-belief that all life has an intelligence. The ancients seemed to realise this when they thought of rivers as gods. I sometimes sense a presence when I am near a river or stream. It might be my wishful thinking but I like to think that there is some life in the river. Perhaps some sort of electric current caused by the flow of water. I believe that the whole universe and everything in it is one. We are all part of each other and consciousness is everywhere. So, perhaps trees have part of that consciousness.

Have you ever read any of Franz Bardon's writings? You can download a complete free copy of his Initiation Into Hermetics, but I can't find the page where it is available. I have a copy saved on disc but haven't read it yet due to lack of time. It would also require time for meditation, which I don't have just now.

Good luck with your future articles. They should do well if they are of this quality. Have you tried getting them in Pagan Dawn or Pentacle?

[Keykeypie]

Hi Brandy,
I love your writing. It's very easy to read too.
I also believe in reincarnation but I think that it works like when we die
our soul.....or life force whatever name you give it......floats from our body
and perhaps splits into several different parts.....kind of like smoke & then
those parts eventually take on a new bodies around the time of birth.

I mean that's how many things work. One plant produces many seeds
......actually, it was from watching how plants grow & die & leave seeds behind than gave me these thoughts.

Anyway...I really enjoyed what you wrote & look forward to more.

[paul]

very good brandy:agree: :thumbsup: :rock:
hope to read some more:agree:

[Bowwowmeow]

very good brandy:agree: :thumbsup: :rock:
hope to read some more:agree:
Me too. ;) :colors:

[Oracl]

Excellent! I really enjoyed reading that, Brandy. :agree: I'm not at all surprised that it was so well received by the editors. :colors: I look forward to reading more of your articles. :reading:

[Brandy]

Firstly, thank you all for such a wonderful & positive response. :yea:

Great piece of writing. The message about compassion should be able to reach anyone who is open to it. I can't comment on the tree incident as I don't believe in reincarnation. I'm not too sure about communication with trees, either. But I do have a vague half-belief that all life has an intelligence. The ancients seemed to realise this when they thought of rivers as gods. I sometimes sense a presence when I am near a river or stream. It might be my wishful thinking but I like to think that there is some life in the river. Perhaps some sort of electric current caused by the flow of water. I believe that the whole universe and everything in it is one. We are all part of each other and consciousness is everywhere. So, perhaps trees have part of that consciousness.
To each there own on the reincarnation issue. And I realise that many people probably wondered what kind of substance I was abusing when the tree spoke to me. I don't expect anyone to automatically believe me, but I do hope that you understand that I believe it happened. I do write fiction, but all these articles are true. :agree: It's lovely that you sense the life in the river - you must be a sensitive soul. :)

Have you ever read any of Franz Bardon's writings?
No, never heard of him. Is he good?

Good luck with your future articles. They should do well if they are of this quality. Have you tried getting them in Pagan Dawn or Pentacle?
Thank you. I like to think my writing has improved significantly since 2002. You can decide for yourself as long as Fauxmage :friends: lets me post more articles here. Are Pagan Dawn & Pentacle UK magazines? Universal Mind is published in Oz but is sent (by subscription) to the UK, Ireland, USA, Canada, New Zealand & Singapore.

I also believe in reincarnation but I think that it works like when we die our soul.....or life force whatever name you give it......floats from our body and perhaps splits into several different parts.....kind of like smoke & then those parts eventually take on a new bodies around the time of birth.

I mean that's how many things work. One plant produces many seeds
......actually, it was from watching how plants grow & die & leave seeds behind than gave me these thoughts.

Anyway...I really enjoyed what you wrote & look forward to more.
Thanks Keykeypie. Your belief about reincarnation is very interesting. I've never heard any theory quite like that before. Definately food for thought. :)

[Brandy]

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[Gliondrach]

It's true what you say about modern technology making us impatient, etc. I don't think we are quite ready for it. And bright lights at night interfere with our natural rhythms. We need darkness to produce melatonin properly. Light at night confuses the hormone system and various chemicals that are associated with wakefullness are released when we should be sleeping. It is thought there could be a link with cancer and bright light at night, by this disruption to the melatonin cycle.

Pagan Dawn is the magazine of the Pagan Federation but is available in shops. Pentacle is an independant magazine and, it says, has more of a green stance.

http://www.nl.pagan federation.org/pf_pd.htm

http://www.pentacle magazine.org/pn760/index.php

Your articles would fit into either publication.

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Who Was Franz Bardon?

Tim Scott
Franz Bardon is one of the most important but least known occultists and magicians of the Twentieth Century. He is mainly known through four books he wrote which were published in the 1950's. Many have borrowed his techniques and terminology without giving him proper credit, sometimes unknowingly, but not always. I recommended his book "Initiation Into Hermetics" to a person who had studied occultism for some years. He was stunned to find that a teacher of his in the past had distributed Bardon's materials pretending he had written them himself.

Bardon was unusual in that he stressed practice and practicality above all else. Although his books contained lengthy theoretical sections, his emphasis was on the tangible, usable results of magickal training. His stated purpose was to give the serious student of magick the most complete and best possible magickal instruction obtainable outside of an occult lodge and without the benefit of a personal teacher. Did he succeed? The only way to judge is by trying his curriculum yourself.
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To tell the truth, I hadn't heard of him, either even though I studied the Kabbalah thirty-odd years ago. Not the strange thing that Mad onna is involved in. And serious writers like Dion Fortune, W.E. Butler and Israel Regardie.

Dolores Ashcroft-Nowicki writes some interesting books, especially about pathworking.

I've found a link to Bardon's book. It's not the same one that I downloaded it from.

http://www. hermetics.com/index.html It is at the top left under 'A Bardon Companion' Have a look. You might be interested.

I tried unparsing the links but, after adding something, the unparsing doesn't work so I have put a gap into each link so that it isn't clickable. It will have to be copied, joined up again, and pasted into gargoyle or yahboo.

[Oracl]

Brandy, that is a wonderful article! :thumbsup: I felt I was reading things about myself that I hadn't really acknowledged when I read the section about the computer and impatience! :o

[Bowwowmeow]

The Balance. By Brandy Ryan.

...Dazzling street lights deny us the awareness and enjoyment of the soft moonlight. The stars, (and other objects in the night sky), are much brighter when viewed from a place of natural night-time darkness....

© Copyright 2002 Brandy Ryan.
First published in Universal Mind magazine. [October 2002 – Issue 54.]
I love to stargaze, and I rarely get to do it around here, especially when the lights illuminate the clouds in the night sky. :sparkle: :moonjar:

[thevegantwins]

I love to stargaze, and I rarely get to do it around here, especially when the lights illuminate the clouds in the night sky. :sparkle: :moonjar:
Same here, I hate the feeling when I'm looking up at the sky and what I think is a beautiful star and then realize its an airplane. :o I rarely see stars.

I think what I like most about your writing, Brandy, is how it is obvious that the words come from your heart :smallheart: . They are not anonymous, cold words but words with passion and beauty.

[Oracl]

I think what I like most about your writing, Brandy, is how it is obvious that the words come from your heart :smallheart: . They are not anonymous, cold words but words with passion and beauty.
Very true! :agree: :colors:

[Brandy]

Thank you Gliondrach for the information & the links. Sounds interesting. (I am vaguely familiar with Dion Fortune's work.) I shall look into the magazines you mentioned as well. :)

Very disturbing about the cancer & bright light at night link. :(

Thank you for the compliments Oracl. :psmooch:

BWM & TVT, :hug: it's awful when you can't see the stars. :covereyes: It's unnatural!

And TVT, your beautiful words ...
I think what I like most about your writing, Brandy, is how it is obvious that the words come from your heart :smallheart: . They are not anonymous, cold words but words with passion and beauty.
... brought tears to my eyes. Everything looks sort of starry to me now. :agree:

[Brandy]

Because a couple of people have politely expressed disbelief in the experiences I have recounted in my articles, I considered writing a preface to each one; but I quickly decided that would be boring and wrote this instead.

Before I started writing my series on spiritual philosophy, I wrote fiction almost exclusively. And I am currently working on two “contemporary fantasy” novels which are set in a recognisable twenty-first century Earth setting, so they interweave certain facts with the fiction.

However, all my articles published in Universal Mind magazine are true. :)

Even though there have been times when I have been purposely vague about certain details in order to protect privacy – other peoples or my own – being vague does not mean it's fiction.

All I ask of you is that you read my work with an open mind. If everything in your own experience and belief system tells you that my articles must be a work of fantasy, I would never waste time or energy arguing the point. What you choose to believe is your business. :agree:

However, I believe that time is too short and the subject of spirituality – and its associated behaviour – is far too important to be lied about. So even if you think that I am the mother of all nuts, :crazy: I do hope that you will also understand that my intentions are good and that I have written these articles out of love :smilieheart: for humans, non-humans & Mother Earth.

[Brandy]

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[thevegantwins]

I loved that article, Brandy. I crave silence because I've lived so long in very noisy environments (and I'm married to a chatterbox). When I lived alone, I'd sit quietly in my apartment. I couldn't hear nature, the sounds of traffic and people would still come in but it was nice just having no background stereo or television. I grew up with a mother who could not and does not tolerate silence, she will utter nonsense just to fill in silence. It always disturbed me. Now, as a mom, I make sure to not fill in silences. I point out the sounds of birds or wind (when we can hear them) because I hope my kids will grow up with an appreciation of nature and the importance of silence.

:flower:

[Gliondrach]

Yes, that's true. Too much noise. I can be silent and people think I'm stand-offish. I rarely have the radio on. I prefer silence. Luckily, my neighbours are quite quiet. I think some people need noise because they are uncomfortable with their thoughts.

[Oracl]

Tranquility is so good for the soul.
:agree: :)

[Bowwowmeow]

...Conversely, I have also witnessed anger and negativity directed at quiet folks, both socially and in the workplace. Personally, I’ve been labeled as anti-social, rude, snobbish, and even stupid, just because I refused to get involved in a trivial or gossipy conversation; when the truth is that being taciturn is simply in my nature. …

© Copyright 2003 Brandy Ryan.
First published in Universal Mind magazine. [February 2003 – Issue 57.] I've always been quiet, and its been an issue for almost everyone I've ever known, outside of my close family. I've never understaood why its so important to people to constantly be making noise. I've even had teachers who actually disliked me for my quietness, and told my parents so at parent-teacher conferences. Fortunately, I was a good student, and got As, to the grudging disappointment of these teachers, who wanted me to do worse because they didn't like me. You'd think a teacher would appreciate a quiet, well-behaved student, but I guess they followed this philosophy, which has often been quoted in my direction, "watch out for the quiet ones, they're the most trouble." :devil2:

I'm not very susceptible to compliments, but I will never forget this one, after I made some wisecrack, "She don't talk much, but when she does, she really says somethin'!" :o :dizzy: :lol:

Its wonderful to read your articles, Brandy. Each one resonates with some part of myself, or my beliefs. :colors:

But that's not why I want you to share them with us here! I would no matter what they were about! :agree:

[Brandy]

... I crave silence because I've lived so long in very noisy environments (and I'm married to a chatterbox) ... I grew up with a mother who could not and does not tolerate silence, she will utter nonsense just to fill in silence ...
:dizzy: :comfort:
... Now, as a mom, I make sure to not fill in silences. I point out the sounds of birds or wind (when we can hear them) because I hope my kids will grow up with an appreciation of nature and the importance of silence.
Your beautiful kids are very lucky to have you for their mom. :agree:

[Brandy]

I've always been quiet, and its been an issue for almost everyone I've ever known, outside of my close family. I've never understaood why its so important to people to constantly be making noise. I've even had teachers who actually disliked me for my quietness, and told my parents so at parent-teacher conferences. Fortunately, I was a good student, and got As, to the grudging disappointment of these teachers, who wanted me to do worse because they didn't like me. You'd think a teacher would appreciate a quiet, well-behaved student ...
If they had any sense at all, they would have been grateful. :agree:
I'm not very susceptible to compliments, but I will never forget this one, after I made some wisecrack, "She don't talk much, but when she does, she really says somethin'!"
:yea:
Its wonderful to read your articles, Brandy. Each one resonates with some part of myself, or my beliefs. :colors:

But that's not why I want you to share them with us here! I would no matter what they were about! :agree:
Very glad you are enjoying them. :) Thank you for allowing me to share them here. :)

[Brandy]

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[Gliondrach]

I never gossip. I try not to give any personal information away about anyone.

[Bowwowmeow]

Except Fuzzy. Sometimes I think we know more about him than we do about you. :whistle:

[Brandy]

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[Bowwowmeow]

So far this is my favorite. :colors:

[thevegantwins]

I understand your mother's point, Brandy and your as well and I do try to treat others with respect. Unfortunately, I am not immune to altering my behavior when I'm treated with disrespect as often happens at my job from both clients and co-workers. I strive to rise above it but I often fail.

[Gliondrach]

Very true and very well put.

In this country various honours are doled out twice a year. People in high status jobs get knighthoods. Those in low status jobs might get an MBE. Paintings are more hightly valued if they are by a famous artist. Many paintings have been found to be fakes and their value drops immediately. Their value was not based on artistic merit. It was based on the name of the supposed artist. They are the same paintings that they were before but are no longer seen in the same light. Most of us do form our perceptions of people and things from arbitrary notions of value.

As for 'doctor', I never use that as a title or job description for anyone.

[Oracl]

I love that article, Brandy! :agree: :colors:

[Brandy]

In order of posting;

Thank you, Bowwowmeow. :nanakiss:

I understand your mother's point, Brandy and your as well and I do try to treat others with respect. Unfortunately, I am not immune to altering my behavior when I'm treated with disrespect as often happens at my job from both clients and co-workers ...
TVT, I'd like to be able to claim that I always do the right :halo: thing now, but that would make me a liar. :liar:
... I strive to rise above it but I often fail.
The fact that you even try to rise above it makes you well above average in my experience.

Very true and very well put.

In this country various honours are doled out twice a year. People in high status jobs get knighthoods. Those in low status jobs might get an MBE. Paintings are more hightly valued if they are by a famous artist. Many paintings have been found to be fakes and their value drops immediately. Their value was not based on artistic merit. It was based on the name of the supposed artist. They are the same paintings that they were before but are no longer seen in the same light. Most of us do form our perceptions of people and things from arbitrary notions of value.

As for 'doctor', I never use that as a title or job description for anyone.
Thank you Gliondrach. :) The knighthood vs. MBE situation is sad. The way paintings are valued is ridiculous. And do you have "issues" with doctors?

Thank you, Oracl. :nanakiss:

[Brandy]

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[Keykeypie]

Many folks expect others to have the same likes and dislikes, and the same moral code, as themselves.

Ah....you touched on something it took me a while to learn.
The golden rule works well in business but it can be a disaster in personal
relationships.

In other words if you care about someone.....DON'T treat them the way you want to be treated...take the time to learn what THEY like and care about.....

I mean would you believe I actually gave a guy I really liked a whole set of tapes of the OPRAH SHOW? :rofl:

Oh and one other thing you brought up in your excellent article, about
how your friend is so good she expects everyone to be the same.

Well I nag my off line friends to death about keeping their doors AND WINDOWS locked....I don't care how many barking dogs you have.....so I'm
doing the same thing here thanks to Brandy's reminder.....PLEASE DON'T
PUT YOURSELF & YOUR COMPANIONS IN DANGER....LOCK UP!:agree:OK?

[Gliondrach]

At first, I expected that the article would come to a certain conclusion but I was wrong. It didn't. How's that for expectation?

I think we both might have the same outlook.

I like to hope for the best but I am always prepared for the worst. I don't mean that I expect the worst. Far from it - I expect the best but I am prepared mentally for it not happening, whilst still believing and hoping that the best will happen. And, if it doesn't, I have another plan. And another. And another.

[Bowwowmeow]

...Many folks expect others to have the same likes and dislikes, and the same moral code, as themselves. Therefore liars frequently believe everyone tells lies; and honest individuals often trust that everyone is as honest as they are...

© Copyright 2003 Brandy Ryan.
First published in Universal Mind magazine. [September 2003 – Issue 64]
This has been especially meaningful to me right now, in more than one difficult situation I've found myself in.

Thanks for sharing your wisdom with us, Brandy, and that of your Mum, too. :colors: :colors: :colors:

[Oracl]

I am thankful for good customer service; and nature’s beauty; and the smile of a stranger; and my affectionate feline buddy; and the unconditional love of friends; and the gift of my life – because I try to never take a blessing for granted.
I try very hard to do this too, Brandy. :) Mostly, I succeed. :agree:

[Brandy]

I mean would you believe I actually gave a guy I really liked a whole set of tapes of the OPRAH SHOW? :rofl:
Did the gentleman ... um ... appreciate the gift, Keykeypie? :whistle:
Well I nag my off line friends to death about keeping their doors AND WINDOWS locked....I don't care how many barking dogs you have.....so I'm doing the same thing here thanks to Brandy's reminder.....PLEASE DON'T PUT YOURSELF & YOUR COMPANIONS IN DANGER....LOCK UP!:agree:OK?
There are no dogs - barking or otherwise - around here, unfortunately. But you will be pleased to know that I'm very strict about checking that the place is locked up properly! :D
At first, I expected that the article would come to a certain conclusion but I was wrong. It didn't. How's that for expectation?

I think we both might have the same outlook.

I like to hope for the best but I am always prepared for the worst. I don't mean that I expect the worst. Far from it - I expect the best but I am prepared mentally for it not happening, whilst still believing and hoping that the best will happen. And, if it doesn't, I have another plan. And another. And another.
May I ask what kind of conclusion you were "expecting"? :rubchin:

And hoping for the best but being prepared for less sounds like wisdom to me. :D
This has been especially meaningful to me right now, in more than one difficult situation I've found myself in.

Thanks for sharing your wisdom with us, Brandy, and that of your Mum, too.
Very glad to be of help! Thank you for allowing me the space to share "our" wisdom. :psmooch:
I try very hard to do this too, Brandy. Mostly, I succeed.
To offer a very personal opinion, Oracl, I believe that too few people try at all - if more people did, the world would be far better than it is now. :agree:

[Brandy]

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[Gliondrach]

Another good un.

Charmagne, in the 'Self-sufficiency: the fantasy vs. the reality' thread, could have benefitted from these suggestions.

I'm sure one of the books you recommend suggests that we should all learn about the wild foods that can be found in our various countries. I know a few here but not all. I saw Ray Mears in his new telly series this evening. It is about the food of hunter gatherer societies. He was in Australia learning from the Aborigines. There are two types of wild yam that they eat. One can be eaten raw or cooked. The other, the Sneaky Yam, needs to be cooked, grated and left in a pond overnight, so that toxins can leach out. Then it is safe to eat. I wonder how they discovered that? That is something that would be vital to know if you ever had to live off the land.

[Fauxmage]

Black Dawn, Bright Day by Sun Bear with Wabun Wind, Bear Tribe Publishing. (1990) ISBN: 0943404185 (I haven’t read this yet, but it came highly recommended.)

I've read some of their books, but not this one. I enjoy them very much, so I bet this one is good too. :agree:

I don't thoroughly understand the ideas behind the pole-shifting disasters. Maybe we need a thread for it, in case anyone is familiar with the subject. I know as a geology major that the earth's magnetism has shifted many times in its long history, from north to south and back again, but iIm not sure this is the same thing.

[Charmagne]

Excellent article Brandy - and excellent advice. Gliondrach is right - had I read any articles or books relating to a disaster such as Katrina I would of been better prepared. I had always heard about hurricane Camille hitting here in 1969 but I was not here at the time. We were told all we needed to do was have a three day supply of water, food, medicine, clothes, etc. This was definitely not the case. We'd had so many close calls that a lot of people quit preparing. When the news said it was a category 5 and headed our way I knew we were in trouble but it was too late to do anything else because it turned this way unexpectedly. I just cringed when my father said "oh we'll get a little rain and wind is alll". I knew better than to make light of mother nature's abilities. I wrote down the name of the last book you mentioned, Phoenix Rising, and plan to purchase it ASAP.

Regarding the financial institutions - take heed because everyone had money in the banks but they were not open for a few days. When they did reopen - the lines were terrible and no matter how much money you had you were allowed only $200 a day.

Now everytime we do our shopping I do buy a little something on my list so as to be better prepared. There were no hurricanes AT ALL in 2006 which was fortunate as so many people had no where to go and had so much damage but I also found it disturbing as we rarely have no hurricanes. Hopefully, we will be better prepared this year starting in June.

Thank you for a great article.

[Oracl]

Excellent article, Brandy. :) Very serious stuff. :( I think we will all need to think more like KRITER and then we would fare better in the event of a global catastrophe. :rubchin:

[Brandy]

Thank you all, as always, for reading with open minds. :) You are such a wonderful bunch of people and the thought of any of you coming to harm tears at my heart. :crying:
... I don't thoroughly understand the ideas behind the pole-shifting disasters. Maybe we need a thread for it, in case anyone is familiar with the subject ...
Great idea. It would be good to have a place to share anything of interest that we do find out, either through books or other means.
... We'd had so many close calls that a lot of people quit preparing. When the news said it was a category 5 and headed our way I knew we were in trouble but it was too late to do anything else because it turned this way unexpectedly...

... Regarding the financial institutions - take heed because everyone had money in the banks but they were not open for a few days. When they did reopen - the lines were terrible and no matter how much money you had you were allowed only $200 a day...
It's awful that you have first-hand "disaster" experience, Charmagne, but thank you for sharing your knowledge. It's too easy to grow complacent about these matters; yet, I believe that we are living on borrowed time. :(

[Brandy]

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[Gliondrach]

I wonder if our ancestors were more in tune with their intuition? How far back would that have been? Probably pre-industrialisation. Perhaps even pre-farming.

[Oracl]

I probably don't attach enough significance to my dreams or think enough about their relevance to my life in the future. :no: :(

[Bowwowmeow]

I wonder if our ancestors were more in tune with their intuition? How far back would that have been? Probably pre-industrialisation. Perhaps even pre-farming. I think they were, and I think we can still be, if we are open to it. I think instinct in particular is the true source of what people think of as psychic abilities and intuition. For example, the feeling I get when a stranger is looking at me that causes me to turn right to them without thinking before they can avert their gaze (I even find myself suddenly glancing directly from whatever I was looking at in a store straight to the security camera, and I suspect that I am being observed right at that moment) was at one time a sensory skill vital to survival, if you were being stared at by a predator.

I don't know if I have ever looked to dreams for messages, though. I have always thought of my dreams mostly as entertainment, as they are almost always very complicated, interesting, and quite fantastic.

Except for a series of dreams I had in the three weeks before my Gramma died. I was taking a night class in the City, and stopping by my grandparents' house to visit before each class. They were being held Thursday nights, and there were six of them. Halfway into the course, I had a dream about my Gramma that Thursday night after I had come home from the class. It was a pretty ordinary dream, in which I was there visiting as I had done so many times in my life.

The following Thursday night, after another visit to my grandparents and another class attended, I dreamed that I was walking with my Gramma in a beautiful, sprawling garden. The sun was out, and the sky was blue, and there were many lovely paths winding through green grass, and flower beds, and trees. My Gramma had been ill for a month or two, but in my dream she was her old, healthy, beautiful self, and we walked arm-in-arm and talked about all kinds of things. It seemed to go on for hours, and it was wonderful. I hated to wake up.

The third Thursday night, I dreamed I was in my grandparents house again, but it was full of people. I wandered from room to room, wondering who all these people were, and why they were here. The house was very dim, and I couldn't see well enough to recognize anyone. Soon, it became very dark, and everyone had retired for the night. I decided I'd better go to bed myself, and the only room left was my Gramma's room. Now, when I was little, and my brother and I came to stay at my grandparents' house with them, my Pa slept in my Dad's old room, in the twin beds, with my brother, and I slept in my grandparents' bed with my Gramma. This was supposedly to keep me and my brother from fighting with each other at night, if we were to have slept in my Dad's old room, but it was fun to sleep with my Gramma, as she would sing hymns to me to get me to sleep. That's why I found it so odd that I was reluctant to enter my Gramma's dark bedroom, and get in her bed with her. My dream ended with me standing in the doorway, unwilling to enter, and unable to understand why I hesitated. That Friday morning, I was awakened by the phone ringing. It was my Dad, trying to tell me that my Gramma had passed away that night. I guessed then that I knew in my dream that she was gone, and that's why I didn't want to go into her room. When I got to my grandparents' house that day, and went in to say goodbye to her, she was lying in her bed as if she were asleep, just as I sensed she was in my dream.

I've lost a few more family members since then, but I never dreamed of it as I dreamed of my Gramma. She was very special to me, and I was devastated by her loss. Sometimes I don't think I'll ever really get over it.

[Brandy]

I've lost a few more family members since then, but I never dreamed of it as I dreamed of my Gramma. She was very special to me, and I was devastated by her loss. Sometimes I don't think I'll ever really get over it.

:bmoon: :comfort:

[Brandy]

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[Charmagne]

Thank you Brandy. Another very thought provoking article. It is sadly true that people judge others by the way they look, what they own, etc. I found this especially true when my son was in high school. All the so called "in" crowd had certain types of cars, clothes, etc. I tried very hard to instill in him the ability to look past that in others.

[Oracl]

Great article, Brandy! :agree: I certainly wish that there were fewer 'shallow fools' and more people who could see beyond outward appearances. :sigh:

[thevegantwins]

Beautiful article, Brandy. As someone who has been judged my entire life based on my weight, the article did have a profound impact. I've been fortunate to find someone who loves me and finds me beautiful for me, not for what a scale says and though I've been on the receiving end of negativity for so long, I still find myself judging others based on their looks. Your mother was a wise woman who raised a beautiful, compassionate daughter.

[Brandy]

Thank you so much ladies! Perhaps between us, we can change the world for the better?! :D (Sounds like Charmagne has already made a good start, the way she raised her son.) :agree:

Beautiful article, Brandy. As someone who has been judged my entire life based on my weight, the article did have a profound impact. I've been fortunate to find someone who loves me and finds me beautiful for me, not for what a scale says and though I've been on the receiving end of negativity for so long, I still find myself judging others based on their looks. Your mother was a wise woman who raised a beautiful, compassionate daughter.
Oh, :o thank you, TVT. Your mother raised a beautiful, compassionate daughter, too! :psmooch: And Mr TVT is a lucky man. :agree:

[Brandy]

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[Gliondrach]

That was very passionate and powerful writing. You obviously feel strongly about it. I think the best humour is directed at oneself.

[Brandy]

Thank you, Gliondrach. :)

I do feel strongly about the subject. And I agree that the ability to laugh at yourself is an invaluable asset.

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[Gliondrach]

Society was better behaved decades ago. There weren't so many louts. I nomally have to battle my way along the pavement when I go to town because people approach me three or four abreast and expect me to go round them when it would be easier for them to part to let me through. When I am walking with others, which is very rare, I always step behind them when I see someone approaching us and I am walking abreast with the others. Others come barging out of shops into the street without stopping first to wait for a gap in the traffic. Many's the time when I have nearly collided with them. When I am coming out of shops or when I want to walk across the flow of pedestrians, I always wait until a suitable gap appears. But two incidents recently were different. A couple of days ago I was walking along he pavement. Three Chinese student-types were walking towards me taking up the whole pavement. But before they came too close two of them parted, to let me through. I was too flabbergasted to thank them. A day or two earlier, I was sauntering along the pavement when an Indian or Pakistani bloke started to leave a shop. He saw me and then stopped and actually said 'sorry', as if he had done something wrong. I was expecting him to barge out so that I would have to avoid him. Again, I was too surprised to react. Decades ago, people showed respect for others. Some showed a bit too much to those in authority, a sort of deference to their 'betters'. But, on the whole, I preferred those days. I remember watching television quite happily with my family but I would be embarrassed to watch some of the programmes that are shown now with them. And we used to save up for things we wanted, except our first television, which was rented, as most were. People are encouraged to take out loans now. I receive at least one loan offer a fortnight. About once every two months I receive an offer of a guaranteed loan. I just need to sign the form and send it back. At one time, banks used to serve their customers but now they try to fleece them. That's indicative of the way society has gone.

[Charmagne]

I agree we were definitely brought up with more respect and manners many years ago.

As far as being selfish and greedy just recently, as most of you probably know, Oprah Winfrey, opened a school for girls in South Africa. CNN interviewed her and asked her (as she had been scrutinized) why she had not helped the needy people in the US. She replied that she had been to many schools in the US and when asked what the students wanted or needed they replied an IPOD or the newest trend in tennis shoes. The South African children replied that they only wanted uniforms so they could attend school.
She stated the US children were given the opportunity to go to a school - whether or not that took this opportunity was another matter.

Your are right - our society does not appreciate the simple things such as a place to live to enough food, clothes, etc. They want more and feel they are owed more. :(

[Oracl]

More thought provoking articles, Brandy. :agree: Thanks so much! :)

[Brandy]

... I nomally have to battle my way along the pavement when I go to town because people approach me three or four abreast and expect me to go round them when it would be easier for them to part to let me through. When I am walking with others, which is very rare, I always step behind them when I see someone approaching us and I am walking abreast with the others. Others come barging out of shops into the street without stopping first to wait for a gap in the traffic. Many's the time when I have nearly collided with them. When I am coming out of shops or when I want to walk across the flow of pedestrians, I always wait until a suitable gap appears. But two incidents recently were different. A couple of days ago I was walking along he pavement. Three Chinese student-types were walking towards me taking up the whole pavement. But before they came too close two of them parted, to let me through. I was too flabbergasted to thank them. A day or two earlier, I was sauntering along the pavement when an Indian or Pakistani bloke started to leave a shop. He saw me and then stopped and actually said 'sorry', as if he had done something wrong. I was expecting him to barge out so that I would have to avoid him. Again, I was too surprised to react...
Funny that you shoud mention that, Gliondrach. In my latest article, I have recounted a recent experience when three teenage girls physically pushed me off the footpath (or sidewalk, for the Americans) while they walked side-by-side. Thankfully there were no cars coming! Anyway, I'm not surprised you were too shocked to thank them.
... I remember watching television quite happily with my family but I would be embarrassed to watch some of the programmes that are shown now with them ...
:agree: :o
... And we used to save up for things we wanted, except our first television, which was rented, as most were. People are encouraged to take out loans now. I receive at least one loan offer a fortnight. About once every two months I receive an offer of a guaranteed loan. I just need to sign the form and send it back ...
That is incredible. :(
As far as being selfish and greedy just recently, as most of you probably know, Oprah Winfrey, opened a school for girls in South Africa. CNN interviewed her and asked her (as she had been scrutinized) why she had not helped the needy people in the US. She replied that she had been to many schools in the US and when asked what the students wanted or needed they replied an IPOD or the newest trend in tennis shoes. The South African children replied that they only wanted uniforms so they could attend school.

She stated the US children were given the opportunity to go to a school - whether or not that took this opportunity was another matter...
Sadly the situation is similar in Australia. It's wonderful what Oprah has done for those kids, though. :agree:
More thought provoking articles, Brandy. Thanks so much!
:psmooch:

[Brandy]

To set the record straight:

All the articles in this thread have been posted in just a few weeks, but they have been written over a period of several years and as such, they are an accurate representation of the evolution of my spiritual philosophy, (as I strive to keep learning new things as well as gain deeper insights into subjects I’m already familiar with.) Since I began posting the articles here, several people have shared their philosophical beliefs – either in this thread or privately – which in turn have opened new avenues of thought and prompted me to investigate theories that I had never come across before, which is a great blessing. :) (Thanks folks.)

However, I have also been showered – in this thread and privately – with so many beautiful and heartfelt compliments that now I feel like a kind of fraud. :o Even though all these articles have been written from the heart, with honesty and only the best of intentions, I fear that I may have given a false impression of myself.

I hope that I have never given the impression that I consider myself to be superior to anyone, because I don’t. I still have far too many faults; I still have blue days, and even black moods when I question if life is worth the struggle. Yet if I was a perfect person leading a charmed life I would have very little to write about, since most of my articles are inspired by my own numerous faults, mistakes & failures.

My destined life-path has taken me far from the life I would have liked; but I have a strong sense of purpose to keep me focused. And writing these articles is a small part of that purpose.

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[Gliondrach]

We don't expect you to be perfect, Brandy. And, as you said, it is the trials and tribulations of life and how we deal with them that make us who we are. I know you'll find it hard to believe, but I am not perfect either. No, it's true. Really it is.

I've never been a follower of fashion. I have dressed more or less in the same way - clothes availabilty allowing - for all my adult life. I'm a bit of a maverick. Many vegans are. We have stepped away from the path that most people follow. I wonder if vegans are naturally rebellious? Were most of you always a bit different, more free-thinking, more likely to refuse to do things just because others did them?

There is a human need to feel part of a group, and anyone who is not part of the group can become a target. It's right that religion has been the spark for many wars but if there were no religions people would find other differences to object to. It is seen in this country with violent rivalries between the supporters of different football teams. And the mass battles between Mods and Rockers forty years ago.

[Bowwowmeow]

Yet if I was a perfect person leading a charmed life I would have very little to write about, since most of my articles are inspired by my own numerous faults, mistakes & failures.
I've said this more than once, I know, and in more than one place on the Internet, but I really do think that any set of ideas, body of belief or knowledge, life philosophy, or anything else a person wants to call it must never be judged according to the degree of perfection of those who practice and promote it. Take Peter Singer for example. I am sad that he seems unable or unwilling to adhere to what I believe should be a vegan way of life, especially when he was the one who made me realize how important it was to become vegan myself. But that in no way should reflect on veganism itself!

What you have to say is of value, Brandy, and people can learn from it, even if you are not 100% able to live it yourself. When I was very young I decided that even people like Jesus and Muhammad were humans, just like me, and even though their devout followers have utterly warped their original messages of love and wisdom, I won't disregard what they had to say, nor will I deify them for saying it. I'll bet that if they were alive today, they would say something very similar to what you have said about yourself.

What's important is the wisdom, not who shares it. But I am grateful to all who are willing to share what they have found to be of value to themselves and others. :)

[Oracl]

I hope that I have never given the impression that I consider myself to be superior to anyone, because I don’t.
Brandy, you come across as a very humble, thoughtful, compassionate person in your articles. :) I never got the impression that you felt superior in any way. :no: I too am grateful to you for sharing your thoughts and values. :agree:

[thevegantwins]

Brandy, you come across as a very humble, thoughtful, compassionate person in your articles. :) I never got the impression that you felt superior in any way. :no:
The Wise Oracl has spoken :master:(and I agree with her..again!) :agree:

[Oracl]

The Wise Oracl has spoken :master: (and I agree with her..again!) :agree:
Aw shucks, how can I maintain my humility with comments like that from The Amazing TVT! :o ;) :D

[Brandy]

... I know you'll find it hard to believe, but I am not perfect either. No, it's true. Really it is.
Gliondrach, I'm just ... speechless. :faint:

[Brandy]

I've said this more than once, I know, and in more than one place on the Internet, but I really do think that any set of ideas, body of belief or knowledge, life philosophy, or anything else a person wants to call it must never be judged according to the degree of perfection of those who practice and promote it. Take Peter Singer for example. I am sad that he seems unable or unwilling to adhere to what I believe should be a vegan way of life, especially when he was the one who made me realize how important it was to become vegan myself. But that in no way should reflect on veganism itself!
What did Peter Singer do? Or not do?
What you have to say is of value, Brandy, and people can learn from it, even if you are not 100% able to live it yourself. When I was very young I decided that even people like Jesus and Muhammad were humans, just like me, and even though their devout followers have utterly warped their original messages of love and wisdom, I won't disregard what they had to say, nor will I deify them for saying it.
I used to have a good friend, whom I also worked with, so we were together 40+ hrs a week. She had an embarrassing amount of faith in me - as though I was some kind of all-knowing wise-woman. :lol: I tried to put her straight many times, but she believed what she wanted to believe :rolleyes: The biggest problem (for both of us) was that she was frequently disappointed by my failings and she didn't hesitate to let me know that she was shocked and disappointed by my imperfections. :(

My biggest fault is probably being intolerant & judgmental toward human beings who abuse animals! I know in my heart that I have NO right to sit in judgement, but I do anyway. I believe that unconditional love for humanity is "the way", but I find it easier to love animals unconditionally... and that creates a lot of guilt. :o (End of confession.)

I think that you are very wise to have come to such sophisticated conclusions at such a young age, Bowwowmeow :agree: The words of the great teachers have been twisted so much ... and yet great as they were, they were also simply human beings. like the rest of us.

[Brandy]

Brandy, you come across as a very humble, thoughtful, compassionate person in your articles. :) I never got the impression that you felt superior in any way. :no: I too am grateful to you for sharing your thoughts and values. :agree:
The Wise Oracl has spoken :master: (and I agree with her..again!) :agree:
Thank you both ... again! :D

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[Charmagne]

Very beautiful Brandy. It is true that gentleness is seen as weakness - especially in the deep south where the good ole boy attitude is rampant. It is sad because I'd much rather be in the company of a gentle and kind human than a macho man who loves to hunt which is seen as manliness here.

Actually, this is part of what caused my divorce. My ex-husband was so afraid of what his buddies would say if he didn't rule the roost so to speak - hunt - fish - etc. - so he was more concerned with his friends approval than mine.

I was brought up with my mother's attitude - always be a good wife. So I was young and always had supper on the table at the same time. Also washed and ironed everything. Even kept his car washed!!. Sat home while he went fishing and hunting. This got old real quick as he drank a lot and was a mean drunk. When our son was only two he decided he didn't need a little night light that plugs in. Chris was still a little afraid of the dark. My ex said to leave him in the dark - he would get used to it. I said that is quite allright - I slept with my son that night.

The more he drank the more abusive he got. He hit me one night while drunk and I went straight to the police station and filed charges. He was very surprised the next day when the law handcuffed him and took him to jail.

I don't know where all this came from but what I was trying to get at is I definitely believe in Karma. My ex died a couple of years ago - from cirrhosis of the liver at the age of 59. We had been divorced for over 20 years but had remained civil because of our son.

Whew - that article made me start rambling. Sorry for those of you I bored but Brandy's articles are so thought provoking.

[thevegantwins]

Whew - that article made me start rambling. Sorry for those of you I bored but Brandy's articles are so thought provoking.
:comfort: That wasn't boring at all, Charmagne. What you wrote just made me respect you even more since you turned your back on 'tradition' and did what was best for you and your son. Just shows me what a strong and intelligent person you are.

[Gliondrach]

Indeed you are strong and intelligent, Charmagne. Stronger than those weaklings who have to kill to try to make themselves feel strong. And it was Brandy's wise and thought provoking words that helped you to show us how strong you are.

[Oracl]

Thanks Brandy, another great and thought-provoking article. Your writing really gets us all thinking. :agree:

And thanks Charmagne, for having the courage to tell us about something so personal. :) Not boring at all - it is definitely an illustration of your strength and intelligence. :psmooch: :friends:

[Brandy]

... The more he drank the more abusive he got. He hit me one night while drunk and I went straight to the police station and filed charges. He was very surprised the next day when the law handcuffed him and took him to jail.

I don't know where all this came from but what I was trying to get at is I definitely believe in Karma. My ex died a couple of years ago - from cirrhosis of the liver at the age of 59. We had been divorced for over 20 years but had remained civil because of our son.

Whew - that article made me start rambling ...
I take my hat of to you Charmagne, for your courage & your strength! :agree: Thank you for sharing your life experiences with us. :friends:

And you definately don't ramble. :no:

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[Keykeypie]

Oh boy......I totally agree with this Brandy.....you cannot ever be free if you allow others to have power over you by blaming them for what's been done....
Even if they really ARE guilty.

In fact, as a woman, I even hold the VERY unpopular belief that men should NOT be held responsable or made to support children unless they want to.
I feel that way because I'm tired of women who play the helpless female.
Even though it takes two.....I still say the decision to have a child is the mother's and if that's what she chooses, then she should take complete responsibility.

Not that I have much or any respect for a man who runs out on his kids,
I'm just saying I don't think it's right or fair that it should be a law.

In other words....it's time for women to take FULL responsibility for their actions.....especially something as important as bringing a child into the world.

[thevegantwins]

In other words....it's time for women to take FULL responsibility for their actions.....especially something as important as bringing a child into the world.
Would you like to give a lecture to my clients, especially the ones who are 24 and already have 6 children by 4 different men? I'd love to talk to them about self-respect, personal health and birth control but we're not allowed to.

[Keykeypie]

I'd love to talk to them about self-respect, personal health and birth control but we're not allowed to.

But those are all good things......why wouldn't you be allowed?

[thevegantwins]

Because that would be logical and my job is anything but logical :dizzy: Seriously, I heard or read years ago that Ronald Reagan basically made it illegal to discuss issues like that with welfare clients. Heaven forfend anyone use birth control or get an abortion. For all their blathering about the precious children, those religious-right and right to lifers have basically created the current welfare and child protection service system.

[Keykeypie]

Not even birth control??? But what if somebody asks you? What do you say to them?

[thevegantwins]

In 13 years, no one has ever asked :(

[Charmagne]

That seems odd to me as don't you think it would be to the government's benefit to educate people - especially women - on birth control at least? It seems it would save the government money in the long run if they cut down on the amount of dependents claimed.

[Charmagne]

Brandy - another great article!! I think you would of made a great therapist or psychologist as you have so much insight and are capable of communicating this to others.

That's not what you do is it?:)

[Gliondrach]

I'm glad you've overcome your earlier traumas, Brandy. You are an example of the kind of attitude you wrote about, and you were obviously strong enough to have coped.

[Brandy]

Brandy - another great article!! I think you would of made a great therapist or psychologist as you have so much insight and are capable of communicating this to others.
:o Thank you so much, Charmagne.
That's not what you do is it?:)
:no: I'm just a writer.

[Brandy]

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[Gliondrach]

It's true, we should all try to do the right thing. So many people commit petty crimes which could have consequences that are not petty to someone else. I have quite often received foreign coins in my change instead of a pound coin I never pass them on. Most of the people who handle them probably don't even know that they are passing foreign money but someone started it and started it deliberately. When this happens I usually feel almost relieved that I have the coin because, if it continued to be passed along, it might have ended up with someone who couldn't afford to lose that amount of money but who wouldn't dream of passing it on. Perhaps someone who needed it to buy food or pay for their bus fare home. It might only be a pound coin but that can be a lot of money to someone.

Even the little things we do can have consequences out of proportion to what they would mean for us.

[Oracl]

In view of that, what if the greatest offering any of us can ever make to the Creator is the gift of our spiritual attitude & behaviour all the time?
I think this is something we can all strive to do. :agree:

[thevegantwins]

Even the little things we do can have consequences out of proportion to what they would mean for us.
I definitely agree with this. Mr. TVT calls me his moral compass since he'll occasionally propose a scenario to me so that I can give an opinion based on my own moral/ethical codes, which he thinks are quite high.

[thevegantwins]

:o Thank you so much, Charmagne.

:no: I'm just a writer.
Brandy, you are not 'just' a writer. Please repeat after me,
"I AM A WRITER!" :yea: :wolfwhis: :nanakiss:

[Brandy]

It's true, we should all try to do the right thing. So many people commit petty crimes which could have consequences that are not petty to someone else. I have quite often received foreign coins in my change instead of a pound coin I never pass them on. Most of the people who handle them probably don't even know that they are passing foreign money but someone started it and started it deliberately. When this happens I usually feel almost relieved that I have the coin because, if it continued to be passed along, it might have ended up with someone who couldn't afford to lose that amount of money but who wouldn't dream of passing it on. Perhaps someone who needed it to buy food or pay for their bus fare home. It might only be a pound coin but that can be a lot of money to someone.

Even the little things we do can have consequences out of proportion to what they would mean for us.
You are a good & wise man, Gliondrach. :)
I think this is something we can all strive to do. :agree:
:thumbsup: :) :yea:
I definitely agree with this. Mr. TVT calls me his moral compass since he'll occasionally propose a scenario to me so that I can give an opinion based on my own moral/ethical codes, which he thinks are quite high.
Mr TVT is obviously an intelligent & insightful man. :)

[Brandy]

Brandy, you are not 'just' a writer. Please repeat after me,
"I AM A WRITER!" :yea: :wolfwhis: :nanakiss:
:lol: Thank you for your multi-coloured positivity, TVT. :psmooch:

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[Oracl]

I will not accept that becoming grumpy as we age is inevitable.
Totally agree. :agree: Unfortunately I encounter far too many grumpy older people, particularly in places such as shops/supermarkets where they can be really unpleasant to the shop assistants. :sigh:

[Keykeypie]

My thoughts on age are much different. Have you ever heard an older person say:
"Oh boy....I wish I was 18 again....I mean 18 and know what I know now"

To me.....that would be the worst thing I could wish on myself. Oh no way!
I was happy when I was 18 BECAUSE I didn't know what I know now.

I try to be nice and pleasant to people.......actually I am, I have to be,
I'm in business & the people I'm dealing with are also very easy going & friendly so it's no problem.
But inside I DESPISE life.....not MY life, my life is fine...but just life in general.

Like I will NEVER understand someone who says......"Oh being a vegan makes me so happy. ??????? That makes NO sense to me at all. I mean if
you know why you should be a vegan......how can you ever be happy?

I can't be the only person who feels this way, can I?

[Oracl]

Like I will NEVER understand someone who says......"Oh being a vegan makes me so happy. ??????? That makes NO sense to me at all. I mean if
you know why you should be a vegan......how can you ever be happy?

I can't be the only person who feels this way, can I?
I agree with you Keykeypie, I feel this way a lot of the time. :(

[Keykeypie]

Thanks Oracl......you DO know what I mean, don't you.

And Oh my goodness, the kids today [I mean the good ones] are so
sharp & know all the stuff it took me years to learn. I'm glad in one way
of course, because they're getting a head start on bringing about the changes
we're all hoping for, but on the other hand it makes me sad.....teenages should be happy & carefree....ya know?

[Gliondrach]

I feel the same now, physically and mentally, as I did decades ago. If anything, I am improving. Brandy has acknowledged how wise I am - thank you very much. I am becoming wiser with every passing year.

We can stay young in mind and body by right living. And we can go on achieving and improving for all of our time here.

Those who are very young will see a world that is very different from the way it is now. The future is unknown but its shadows are cast before it. They suggest that the weather will be turned upside down but also that there will be a greater awareness of cruelty and a desire to end it. I just hope that living conditions don't become so bad that ideas about compassion are forgotten in the struggle to survive.

[Oracl]

I just hope that living conditions don't become so bad that ideas about compassion are forgotten in the struggle to survive.
That is a very scary thought. :(

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[Gliondrach]

I try to tell the truth. I usually only lie when it is the better option. For example, my CV is mainly a work of fiction. If it told the truth I wouldn't have managed to get most of the jobs I have had. Apart from that, I tell the truth. No, I tell a lie. I lied to head office when I worked for a political organisation. This was prompted by an animal-related issue. But all of us who worked there benefitted financially by being kept in employment longer than we would have been. So, my lies were designed to help animals and did help the workers. The organisation actually reneged on a promise over wages, claiming lack of funds. Lying fools.

[Keykeypie]

Let's face it......life is too complicated to always tell the truth. I'm with you
Martin...lies for the greater good are the right thing to do....especially when it comes to animals who desperately need all the help we can give them.

Would I lie under oath? Absolutely.....& I have. My friend was on trial for
rescuing a dog from a horrible life. I lied & said he found the dog & I lied
about knowing where the dog ended up.

But I must admit.....I'm much more comfortable in situations where I can be totally honest. AND.......I'm always honest with my customers. If someone
brings me a lock that's not really broken, just needs a little oil, I tell them so & don't charge them.
Partly because I'm honest & partly because I know they'll keep coming back & tell their friends:)

[thevegantwins]

I hate lying though I can see lying for the greater good. I most certainly would lie to save my family or animals. I grew up with a mother who was and is a compulsive liar and it sickened/sickens me to hear her lie about everything and anything. Her words mean nothing. Same with one of my coworkers. She had been a close friend for years but as I began to realize how many lies she actually told, our friendship has diminished because I just can't believe what she says. People think 'white lies' are benign, they aren't.

[Keykeypie]

Oh I think I know what you mean TVT.....I had a friend like that too and it just got to be so .......so.......I don't know the word [boring? ] but was she always lying about bad stuff happening to her that didn't really happen or people being mean to her who hadn't really done anything at all?

[Gliondrach]

That's what Brandy meant. She said that we can't openly express every emotion. We have to bend the truth a bit for the smooth running of society and for the greater good.

Wouldn't it be great if we could hear politicians' thoughts as they answered questions?

[Keykeypie]

Wouldn't it be great if we could hear politicians' thoughts as they answered questions?
It sure would:laugh: :rofl:

[Charmagne]

I don't know of anyone who can say they've told the truth about everything. I think everyone has told lies like Gliondrach said "for the smooth running of society and the greater good". I, also, especially will lie where animals are concerned and have done so. When we found Foxy wandering around the casino parking lot she was pregnant. I was like a mother hen. I thought I had to help with delivery and everything. My sister said that dog knows what to do and of course she did - as it was pretty evident she had been used for breeding anyway.

She had six puppies. I wanted to keep them all but of course I already had three dogs. I kept one - deciding who was to get the others was the problem. People would call me and say they wanted to "get a dog for their child's sixth birthday" and I would tell them they were all taken. I had to flat out tell one man he couldn't have one because he said he had talked to me the day before and I stated I had one left. Well, come to find out he wanted it for his one year old!! Come on. NOT!! Especially when I found out that he was divorced and only had the child on weekends and the mother didn't know about the puppy yet! I finally told him the truth - I just was not giving up a puppy to be manhandled by a one year old child. He was very pissed off. Too bad.

[Brandy]

I'm a little surprised by the strength of people's reactions to that last article! :rubchin:

If it's possible to naive and cynical at the same time :dizzy: then I am - because I usually assume that people are being honest, however, if anyone tells me that they have never told a lie, I don't believe them!

Yet there are some situations where lying is the only reasonable option, such as when protecting friends & family (human or otherwise). ;) However, when people lie day & night, particularly about pointless things, it's hard to take.

[Brandy]

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[Gliondrach]

I know what you mean about the human attitude to the world. Thousands of acres of land is built on every year, and the former inhabitants - insects, birds, plants - have to find somewhere else to live. People complain about the mess that birds make of their cars or washing. They even sometimes kill pigeons and seagulls because they are considered nuisances. We are the nuisances. We invade their land and call them pests.

Like you, I prefer to see gardens that have a wild look. A meadow is better than a lawn. The other animals think so too.

Well done on reducing your shoe size.

[Fauxmage]

I'm reminded of something someone has in their signature on another forum:
"Every snowflake in an avalanche cries 'not guilty!'"

[Oracl]

...gardens where everything is pruned, weeded and mown until the grass resembles Astroturf and so many poisons are used no living thing, (with any commonsense), wants to live there.
Far too many of those sorts of gardens around here, unfortunately. Sad, sterile, water-guzzling monstrosities. :(

[Charmagne]

Thanks Brandy - that article really made me think. We truly are visitors in the animals' and Mother Nature's land. It's sad that the non-human beings are not so slowly anymore - being driven out of their natural home. It's a wonder there are any birds, squirrels, etc. left to observe. It's all so overwhelming to me lately.

[Oracl]

It's all so overwhelming to me lately.
I think you need a hug, Charmagne. :hug: :psmooch: :friends:

[Brandy]

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[Gliondrach]

I prefer being alone. I really don't want social contact with meat eaters. If people were cannibals and had some meat from one of my relatives in their fridge, I wouldn't feel very friendly towards them. Many's the time that I have been getting on well with someone when they suddenly announce that they like fishing. I can try to reason with such people but I could never be on friendly terms with them. Others, who seem compassionate, just can't understand, or don't care, about the suffering of laboratory and farm animals. The attitude is usually that things are just like that and can't be changed, so why inconvenience yourself by trying? Or that they have more important things to worry about. Give me solitude any day of the week rather than the company of such people.

One of the main advantages for me in the solitary life is that I usually win most of the arguments.

[Keykeypie]

I prefer being alone. I really don't want social contact with meat eaters. If people were cannibals and had some meat from one of my relatives in their fridge, I wouldn't feel very friendly towards them. Many's the time that I have been getting on well with someone when they suddenly announce that they like fishing. I can try to reason with such people but I could never be on friendly terms with them.

I feel exactly the same way......and I prefer being alone too. But then come on.....I live in NYC, where there's no shortage of people, so being alone is actually a luxury. No.....I can never understand why some people seem to fear being alone. I mean it's so much easier.....what's not to like?

[Charmagne]

I think you need a hug, Charmagne. :hug: :psmooch: :friends:

Thank you Oracl. You are always so sweet and understanding.:friends:

Brandy, you have such great insight. I have been through all of those partying and drinking days in my younger days until, I like to think, with wisdom I realized I'd rather be alone most of the time. Just my animals companions and myself. Of course, I take care of my father but he does his own thing. I lost my mother in 1984 and it took a long time to come to terms with that - but after I did and after my divorce and almost another marriage I decided I would rather be by myself. For some reason, which you probably can tell me, rather than me trying to figure it out, some people that are alone are very unhappy with being by themselves. This article kind of ties into your article about lying. I've found that a lot of people that are alone do tell the white lies or exaggerate to draw attention to themselves. Are they so unhappy inside that they have to have attention any way they can get it?

I agree with Gliondrach - if I have to choose associating with people that advocate the torture of innocent beings - even inadvertly - I'd rather not be bothered. I am civil - don't get me wrong - but as far as being friends - I can no longer do it.

[Gliondrach]

You have lots of friends here, Charmagne.

[Charmagne]

Thank you Gliondrach:friends: and thank Fuzzy too - when he gets back from his mission of course.

[Gliondrach]

Shhh! It's secret.

[Brandy]

It's a pity we all live so far away from each other. :boat:

I prefer being alone. I really don't want social contact with meat eaters. If people were cannibals and had some meat from one of my relatives in their fridge, I wouldn't feel very friendly towards them. Many's the time that I have been getting on well with someone when they suddenly announce that they like fishing. I can try to reason with such people but I could never be on friendly terms with them. Others, who seem compassionate, just can't understand, or don't care, about the suffering of laboratory and farm animals. The attitude is usually that things are just like that and can't be changed, so why inconvenience yourself by trying? Or that they have more important things to worry about. Give me solitude any day of the week rather than the company of such people.

One of the main advantages for me in the solitary life is that I usually win most of the arguments.
Do you and Fuzzy argue often? :lol:

I feel exactly the same way......and I prefer being alone too. But then come on.....I live in NYC, where there's no shortage of people, so being alone is actually a luxury. No.....I can never understand why some people seem to fear being alone. I mean it's so much easier.....what's not to like?
Perhaps it's hard to be alone if your conscience is bothering you? :rubchin:

Brandy, you have such great insight. I have been through all of those partying and drinking days in my younger days until, I like to think, with wisdom I realized I'd rather be alone most of the time. Just my animals companions and myself. Of course, I take care of my father but he does his own thing. I lost my mother in 1984 and it took a long time to come to terms with that - but after I did and after my divorce and almost another marriage I decided I would rather be by myself. For some reason, which you probably can tell me, rather than me trying to figure it out, some people that are alone are very unhappy with being by themselves. This article kind of ties into your article about lying. I've found that a lot of people that are alone do tell the white lies or exaggerate to draw attention to themselves. Are they so unhappy inside that they have to have attention any way they can get it?

I agree with Gliondrach - if I have to choose associating with people that advocate the torture of innocent beings - even inadvertly - I'd rather not be bothered. I am civil - don't get me wrong - but as far as being friends - I can no longer do it.
Thank you for the wonderful compliments but I think you overestimate my powers of insight, Charmagne. :whistle: And I think you answered your own question - some people crave attention so much they'll demand it any way they can. :liar:

[Brandy]

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[Gliondrach]

If we have to wear masks, they should be good ones. We should let the compassion inside guide us in our behaviour. Not always easy, especially when confronting evil, but in more ordinary situations we should behave better than most people. I know I don't always behave better, though. But it is usually inconsideration, injustice and swindles that set me off. I always remain kindly disposed in other situations. Even when people are incompetent or downright daft. We can all be incompetent and a bit daft at times. As long as there's no malice involved, I am always patient with such people, and actually feel embarrassed in case they think that I am judging them. We can all do with a bit more love in the directing of our dealings with others, as Brandy points out.

[thevegantwins]

Very intriguing article, Brandy. I do wear masks because I'm often uncomfortable in social situations though I tend to be in them quite often. I bet I would be alot happier with myself if I lived an environment where I didn't feel the need to wear a mask which means somewhere much less populated than here.

[Charmagne]

If we have to wear masks, they should be good ones. We should let the compassion inside guide us in our behaviour. Not always easy, especially when confronting evil, but in more ordinary situations we should behave better than most people. I know I don't always behave better, though. But it is usually inconsideration, injustice and swindles that set me off. I always remain kindly disposed in other situations. Even when people are incompetent or downright daft. We can all be incompetent and a bit daft at times. As long as there's no malice involved, I am always patient with such people, and actually feel embarrassed in case they think that I am judging them. We can all do with a bit more love in the directing of our dealings with others, as Brandy points out.

I agree with Gliondrach - especially about being a bit more loving in the directing of our dealings with others.:agree:

[Oracl]

What a fascinating article! More stuff for me to think about. :rubchin: Thanks, Brandy. :)

[Gliondrach]

Do you and Fuzzy argue often? :lol:




No. It would be easier for a child to argue with Einstein about physics than it would be for me to argue with Fuzzy about anything.

[Brandy]

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[thevegantwins]

I really enjoyed this article, Brandy. I too hate those charity solicitations that come with 'free' gfits or enticements to give. I have so many address labels from charities who mail those items out and ask for a donation in return. I give to those charities I believe in, not because of what they give me or can give me, but because I want to support them.

The smallest and simplest gift – material or otherwise – given with unconditional love is always more valuable than the most grandiose gesture made due to of a sense of obligation or with an expectation of receiving anything in return.This so rings true to me. The best gifts I've ever received during my life were simple but meant so much to me. One example is that when I lived in London during my early 20's, I was illegal and at one point, unemployed and dirt broke. Some Irish friends of mine invited me to stay in their flat so at one point, there were 11 of us living in a 2-bedroom council flat. I used to clean up to help make up for the fact that I wasn't paying rent or buying food but no one ever made me feel bad for not contributing monetarily. On my birthday, the group of them pooled their sparse money together and surprised me with a pair of shoes. The shoes I had been wearing were cheap and falling apart so my friends bought me a new pair. It was one of the most heart-felt, sweet, gifts I've ever received. Those shoes made me feel so special because I knew people cared about me, people I didn't even know 2 years earlier.

[Charmagne]

That was such a sweet story TVT. It is the small things that count to me as well. :agree:

I too have stacks of address labels and calendars. I think once you donate to someone you believe in you are on a list or something - as solicitations come out of nowhere - people I have never heard of or donated to.

[Gliondrach]

It's true what you say about the tactics some charities use, Brandy. They all have highly paid marketing people who tell them what psychological tricks to use. It's natural for people to feel obliged to help if they have been given a gift. In some countries people have to give a gift in return or they will lose face. There are books which talk about reciprocity, which is exactly the concept that these charities are using.

If I ever give to these organisations I don't include my address. They can't tell who I am from the cheque I send them. A particular charity that I would never give money to - one that uses vivisection - sends me a pen two or three times a year. They come in quite handy.

[Charmagne]

So weird that we've posted about organisations sending address labels. I received some in the mail today from the DAV (Disabled American Veterans) for my mother. She passed away in 1984!! Makes me wonder if someone is using her identity!! Very strange.

[Brandy]

... when I lived in London during my early 20's, I was illegal and at one point, unemployed and dirt broke. Some Irish friends of mine invited me to stay in their flat so at one point, there were 11 of us living in a 2-bedroom council flat. I used to clean up to help make up for the fact that I wasn't paying rent or buying food but no one ever made me feel bad for not contributing monetarily. On my birthday, the group of them pooled their sparse money together and surprised me with a pair of shoes. The shoes I had been wearing were cheap and falling apart so my friends bought me a new pair. It was one of the most heart-felt, sweet, gifts I've ever received. Those shoes made me feel so special because I knew people cared about me, people I didn't even know 2 years earlier.
What a lovely memory. :)
... A particular charity that I would never give money to - one that uses vivisection - sends me a pen two or three times a year. They come in quite handy.
At least pens are more useful than those address labels. :)
So weird that we've posted about organisations sending address labels. I received some in the mail today from the DAV (Disabled American Veterans) for my mother. She passed away in 1984!! Makes me wonder if someone is using her identity!! Very strange.
Do any other organisations send mail for your mum, Charmagne? :( :comfort:

[Brandy]

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[Charmagne]

Great article Brandy. Thank you for getting the message out there to people who otherwise may never know how farm animals are mistreated.

Sorry to hear we won't be reading any new articles anytime soon - have come to look forward to them. You'll still be around though right?

No, I have never received any kind of solicitations for my Mother until yesterday. It was weird in that we had been talking about it.

[Gliondrach]

Excellent article. Did any other people write in, apart from that woman who e-mailed to ask about the chickens? I wonder if you helped anyone to change their ways? You might have, as there were probably many of the readers who didn't realise about the cruelty involeved in dairy and egg production.

[Oracl]

Wonderful article, Brandy! :) I'm sure it would have had a profound effect on many readers. :agree:

I really relate to this sentence:

I have made a personal commitment to remain a vegan for the rest of my life and I have reached a new level of peace within my soul.

[Brandy]

Great article Brandy. Thank you for getting the message out there to people who otherwise may never know how farm animals are mistreated.

Sorry to hear we won't be reading any new articles anytime soon - have come to look forward to them. You'll still be around though right?
Thanks Charmagne. :friends: Yes, I'll still be around. I just won't be posting on a regular basis anymore.
Excellent article. Did any other people write in, apart from that woman who e-mailed to ask about the chickens? I wonder if you helped anyone to change their ways? You might have, as there were probably many of the readers who didn't realise about the cruelty involved in dairy and egg production.
Thanks Martin. :) The only person I heard from was the lady with the "pet" chickens. (Apparently quite a few people contact the magazine editor about my work though.) I can only hope that others have seen the light. :lightbulb:
Wonderful article, Brandy! :) I'm sure it would have had a profound effect on many readers. :agree:
Thanks Oracl. :psmooch: