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Bowwowmeow
02-02-2006, 06:52 PM
Welcome to Petloss.com (http://www.petloss.com/), a gentle and compassionate website for pet lovers who are grieving over the death of a pet or an ill pet. Here you will find personal support, thoughtful advice, The Monday Pet Loss Candle Ceremony, Tribute Pages, healing poetry like Rainbow Bridge & much more.
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Bowwowmeow
05-21-2006, 02:19 AM
There is considerable scientific research on the physiological and psychological effects of crying. This evidence supports the theory that crying is beneficial and serves as a natural stress-release mechanism. I will briefly summarize some of this research.
Dr. William Frey, a biochemist who studied human tears, compared tears shed for emotional reasons, which he called "emotionally induced tears," with those shed because of an irritant such as a cut onion, called "irritant-induced tears" (Frey and Langseth, 1985).
The biochemical analyses of the two kinds of tears revealed statistically significant differences, specifically higher protein concentrations in the emotionally induced tears. Further analyses of these tears revealed the presence of certain hormones and neurotransmitters that are found to be present in the body during stress. These substances serve to prepare the various body organs to cope adaptively with stress. However, since they are no longer needed after the stressful event is terminated, their continued presence would maintain the body in a state of needless tension and arousal.
Dr. Frey concluded from his research that the purpose of crying in response to stress is to remove waste products from the body through tears, just as waste products are excreted by urinating and defecating. Crying, therefore, serves the purpose of restoring the body’s chemical balance after a stressful event has occurred. Sweating is another mechanism by which the body rids itself of chemical substances.
Other researchers have measured physiological changes during crying in adults and have found that crying lowers the blood pressure, pulse rate, and body temperature, and results in more synchronized brain-wave patterns (Karle, Corriere, and Hart, 1973; Woldenberg et al., 1976). As these are generally considered to be measures of tension, the conclusion from these studies is that crying serves to reduce tension.
If crying removes excess chemicals from the body and also reduces tension, one would expect it to be related to physical and psychological health. Several studies have confirmed this. For example, children suffering from various forms of trauma benefit from therapy that allows the natural stress-release mechanism of crying (Emerson, 1989; Jewett, 1982; Levine, 1994). Severely disturbed children also benefit from crying. Several therapists have noted profound and rapid improvements in autistic children after they were allowed and encouraged to cry and rage during holding-therapy sessions (Waal, 1955; Welch, 1983; Zaslow and Breger, 1969), and children with extreme behavior problems have also been cured with similar holding therapy (Magid and McKelvey, 1987).
These different areas of research all support the conclusion that crying is a beneficial physiological process that allows people to cope with stress and can be considered an inborn healing mechanism. Although newborn infants typically do not shed tears when they cry until they are several weeks old, they do sweat profusely during crying spells, perhaps excreting excess stress hormones in that manner until the tear glands begin to function.
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Gliondrach
07-16-2006, 07:21 AM
That pet loss site will be a godsend to some people. And that reasearch about crying is very interesting, Bowwow.
Perhaps we should all watch a weepy film when we are feeling stressed.
Keykeypie
10-19-2006, 09:02 AM
Welcome to Petloss.com (http://www.petloss.com/), a gentle and compassionate website for pet lovers who are grieving over the death of a pet or an ill pet. Here you will find personal support, thoughtful advice, The Monday Pet Loss Candle Ceremony, Tribute Pages, healing poetry like Rainbow Bridge & much more.
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I love that web site Bowwow! And I don't know if it's still there but here's
a poem from there that has saved many a furry life...
Message From *The Bridge*
*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~
Sorrow fills a barren space;
you close your eyes and see my face
and think of times I made you laugh,
the love we shared, the bond we had,
the special way I needed you -
the friendship shared by just we two.
The day's too quiet, the world seems older,
the wind blows now a little colder.
You gaze into the empty air
and look for me, but I'm not there -
I'm in heaven and I watch you,
and I see the world around you too.
I see little souls wearing fur,
souls who bark and souls who purr
born unwanted and unloved -
I see all this and more above -
I watch them suffer, I see them cry,
I see them lost, I watch them die.
I see unwanted thousands born -
and when they die, nobody mourns.
These little souls wearing fur
(Some who bark and some who purr)
are castaways who - unlike me -
will never know love or security.
A few short months they starve and roam,
Or caged in shelters - nobody takes home.
They're special too (furballs of pleasure),
filled with love and each one, a treasure.
My pain and suffering came to an end,
so don't cry for me, my person, my friend.
But think of the living - those souls with fur
(some who bark and some who purr) -
And though our bond can't be broken apart,
make room for another in your home and your heart.[]
*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~
This splendid poem was written by: Caro Schubert-James & Posted @ Pet Loss Grief Support, in 1996
Bowwowmeow
10-19-2006, 10:21 AM
Thanks Keykeypie. I know so many people who have lost a beloved animal, and feel too devastated to ever have another. This always makes me so sad for all the animals waiting in shelters for loving homes. I may copy this poem and send it to customers who have lost animals and don't want any more.
Keykeypie
10-19-2006, 10:30 AM
I may copy this poem and send it to customers who have lost animals and don't want any more.
ABSOLUTELY! That's what it's for. Like I said....I bet that poem has
saved many, many lives. And there's no better way to honor a beloved pet.
I've sent it to many people and only one person took offence and that
was because it refers to heaven and he was an Atheist.........a real
strict one.
OT......I sure hope you're feeling better.:comfort:
Bowwowmeow
10-19-2006, 10:37 AM
A little bit, thanks. :o
Tiggerwoos
10-20-2006, 02:29 AM
Aww, that's such a lovely poem Keykeypie.
Good job I'm in the office alone, cos I've got a tear in my eye thinking about my old bunny and fish.
my3labs
04-25-2007, 07:40 AM
My sister just lost her 14 year old lab "Babe".
I'm very sad.
Fauxmage
04-25-2007, 10:53 AM
:( :hug:
Charmagne
04-25-2007, 12:10 PM
I'm sorry to hear that my3labs. It is very difficult to lose a companion after so many years. My oldest died at 19 and I'm still not over it. Please let your sister know she is in our thoughts.
Gliondrach
04-25-2007, 12:14 PM
I hope you both find the strength, solace and comfort you need. You can support each other, and as you both feel love for Babe you will both know how each other feels and what each needs.
Im so sorry for you and your sister my3labs, hope you can think of all the good times you and babe had.:comfort: :hug:
Oracl
04-25-2007, 11:48 PM
So sorry to hear that, my3labs. :(
Gliondrach
08-30-2007, 04:30 AM
I saw this on another forum. I don't know where it comes from.
Written by a Vet
"Being a veterinarian, I had been called to examine a ten-year-old Irish
Wolfhound named Belker. The dog's owners, Ron, his wife, Lisa and their
little boy, Shane, were all very attached to Belker, and they were hoping for
a miracle. I examined Belker and found he was dying of cancer. I told the
family we couldn't do anything for Belker, and offered to perform the
euthanasia procedure for the old dog in their home.
As we made arrangements, Ron and Lisa told me they thought it would be good
for six-year-old Shane to observe the procedure. They felt Shane might learn
something from the experience.
The next day, I felt the familiar catch in my throat as Belker's family
surrounded him. Shane seemed so calm, petting the old dog for the last time,
that I wondered if he understood what was going on. Within a few minutes,
Belker slipped peacefully away.
The little boy seemed to accept Belker's transition without any difficulty or
confusion. We sat together for a while after Belker's death, wondering aloud
about the sad fact that animal lives are shorter than human lives. Shane, who
had been listening quietly, piped up, "I know why."
Startled, we all turned to him. What came out of his mouth next stunned me.
I'd never heard a more comforting explanation. He said, "People are born so
that they can learn how to live a good life -- like loving everybody all
the time and being nice, right?" The six-year-old continued, "Well, dogs
already know how to do that, so they don't have to stay as long." "
- Live simply
- Love generously
- Care deeply
- Speak kindly
Remember, if a dog was the teacher you would learn things like:
- When loved ones come home, always run to greet them.
- Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joyride.
- Allow the experience of fresh air and the wind in your face to be pure ecstasy.
- Take naps.
- Stretch before rising.
- Run, romp, and play daily.
- Thrive on attention and let people touch you.
- Avoid biting when a simple growl will do.
- On warm days, stop to lie on your back on the grass.
- On hot days, drink lots of water and lie under a shady tree.
- When you're happy, dance around with your entire body.
- Delight in the simple joy of a long walk.
- Eat with gusto and enthusiasm. Stop when you have had enough.
- Be loyal. Never pretend to be something you're not.
- If what you want lies buried, dig until you find it.
- When someone is having a bad day, be silent, sit close by and nuzzle them gently.
- Being always grateful for each new day and for the blessing of you.
dreamer
08-30-2007, 07:38 AM
I do think we can learn a lot from our animal companions and I agree that dogs teach us the listed lessons:agree:
Charmagne
08-30-2007, 09:57 AM
Very smart 6 year old!:agree: If people were like animals all the problems we are now facing would not exist.:s:igh:
Bowwowmeow
08-30-2007, 10:07 AM
Thanks for sharing that with us, Gliondrach. :hug:
Oracl
08-30-2007, 11:31 PM
That's beautiful, Gliondrach! :nanakiss:
Gliondrach
08-31-2007, 09:39 AM
You're beautiful, Gliondrach! :nanakiss:
Thank you. But I already knew that.
Soynut
08-31-2007, 10:29 AM
Thanks, Gliondrach. Beautiful:) My dog has taught me a lot about how to live and I'm still learning from him. No matter how crappy I feel at any given day, he always makes me feel better when he takes me for walks and "forces" me to play catch with him (how can you do THAT with a sour face). Dogs are so amazing, but they can also get depressed and have hang-ups just like human beings.... Maybe that's why we understand each other so well and are able to have such mutual friendship.:dogface 4:
I was walking my pooch the other day and a man stopped and complimented him for being so loving, sweet and friendly. I was so flattered when he said that he reflects the owner.:smile2::flirt: That's the best compliment I ever got, it made me feel so good.
Gliondrach
08-31-2007, 02:47 PM
As Roy Rodgers sang: A four footed friend will never let you down.
Oracl
09-01-2007, 12:08 AM
Thank you. But I already knew that.
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Gliondrach
09-01-2007, 03:12 AM
:treasure:
Bowwowmeow
09-01-2007, 10:53 AM
:slappy:
If only I had a nickel for every time someone around here used Slappy. . . :daydream:
Gliondrach
09-02-2007, 01:45 AM
:slappy: x 21,000,000. That's a lot of nickles.
Oracl
09-02-2007, 11:50 PM
:slappy:
21,000,001 now.
my3labs
12-07-2007, 10:20 PM
My neighbor, who is a good friend of mine, put her dog down last night. His name was "Jake". Jake was a 15 year old yellow lab mix. He was one of the sweetest dogs I've ever known. I've clipped his nails, babysat him, brushed him...
Jake (AKA: Jake-A-Boy) had a massive tumor on his leg and several more throughout his body. He could barely walk and was having more and more bad days lately.
I'm so sad for Jake. I will miss him.
Oracl
12-07-2007, 10:28 PM
RIP Jake. :sorry:
Bowwowmeow
12-07-2007, 10:54 PM
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Gliondrach
12-08-2007, 02:48 AM
Jake's free from pain now. I hope you and his family feel better soon, My3labs.
Phoenix
12-08-2007, 04:47 AM
Ditto.
:comfort:Sorry to hear about Jake.
Bowwowmeow
02-18-2010, 07:59 PM
I'm afraid one of my customers, a sweet little old kitty named Hannah I have been caring for for seven or eight years now, is not going to make it much longer, and I am pretty blue.
Gliondrach
02-19-2010, 04:39 AM
Poor little Hannah. I hope she is comfortable. I'm sure she's had a good life here but, if it's no longer enjoyable, it will be better for her to move on. I'll send her good thoughts. And you, too, Bow. :hug:
Ayashi Foxtail
02-19-2010, 09:09 AM
Poor critters :(
Someone I know, after a long and expensive battle, just lost one of their geckos. She's gutted and I cried too.
Gliondrach
02-19-2010, 03:38 PM
Poor little gecko.
Doughnut
02-20-2010, 03:32 AM
:hug:
Bowwowmeow
02-26-2010, 05:47 PM
Well Hannah is hanging in there, though it is hurting to see her, because she is so thin and frail.
But Poison, Harry Winston's kitty, was missing since Wednesday, when their mom left for another trip, and I've been a wreck thinking she ran off somewhere to pass on. I was miserable, wondering how to break it to her mom, when I got a message from her mom that she had had her put to sleep before she left, and forgot to tell me. :(
So I had a dream last night that Poison had gotten away somehow, and came back home, and since her mom thought she was dead, and would try to put her to sleep again if she came home and found her alive, I was going to have to take her to live with me in order to save her life. :(
I was hoping I would be able to find a job and move before any more of my sweet customers passed on or moved away, but it is not working out. :(
And it is really hard to deal with owners who do not appear distressed when they put their animals to sleep. Poison's mom didn't even show the slightest hitch in her voice when she told me, and I on the other hand have been crying over having to tell family members or friends that the reason I am having a bad day is because another one of my customers has passed away. I'm not even sure it was necessary, that's part of what makes it so hard. She was going to be 22 in another month, and that is old for a kitty, but her mom said she couldn't jump on the chair any more to get to her water on the bathroom counter, and she had wet herself. Well, put the water on the floor so she can reach it, don't kill her just because she is getting old! :( :( :(
Thanks for reading this far. Very few people understand. Fellow pet sitters think I am nuts when I miss my customers and cry over their deaths, and even some owners have been startled at my reaction when they tell me over the phone of their animals' deaths.
I don't cope with death very well. Probably never will.
Gliondrach
02-27-2010, 06:32 AM
:hug:
Hannah is a little fighter. Her name is from Hebrew and means 'graceful'.
Poor Poison. Her human seems callous not to show any concern, or it might just be her way of dealing with grief. But, as you said, she could have put the water on the floor.
Meat eaters usually think of other animals as less important and less worthy of love. They sometimes have no more regard for them than they do for their cars.
Bowwowmeow
02-27-2010, 03:09 PM
:hug:
Hannah is a little fighter. Her name is from Hebrew and means 'graceful'.
Poor Poison. Her human seems callous not to show any concern, or it might just be her way of dealing with grief. But, as you said, she could have put the water on the floor.
Meat eaters usually think of other animals as less important and less worthy of love. They sometimes have no more regard for them than they do for their cars.
Thanks Martin. I don't like to think the worst of people. It's just hard when your reactions are so different from theirs.
Soynut
03-07-2010, 02:04 AM
I understand your feelings; I cry over friends and neighbors pets, sometimes even more than they do. My husband is the same and often he can't stop thinking about them for a long time. We often talk and tell stories about people's pets like others talk human beings. They're so interesting with their own little personalities. I honestly think it's the biggest thing we have in common - the love for animals. The subject matter never gets boring to us.
If dog walkers can't be sad over animals death, especially the customers, then I think they're are in the wrong field of work, seriously. I'm amazed that some of your fellow dog walkers hearts are not touched by animals.
Bowwowmeow
03-08-2010, 06:44 PM
Thanks Soynut.
Hannah has passed away. She was 18, and passed away in her sleep. She was very well loved. Doesn't make it any easier. :(
Gliondrach
03-09-2010, 09:25 AM
Poor little Hannah. :( At least she had a good passing. Was it within the last couple of days? I was wondering how she was.
Bowwowmeow
03-09-2010, 12:34 PM
It was last week while I was away. My Dad was walking Boots for me, and the owner left me a note about Hannah. It is especially hard when you have to keep going to the home to care for the other animals. I still have to stop myself from looking for Poison when I go to Harry's house, and it will be an even harder habit to break when I visit Boots, since I have been caring for Hannah since before they brought Boots home.
Gliondrach
03-09-2010, 03:02 PM
They're lucky to have you looking after them instead of someone who just does it like any other job. I'm sure they could tell the difference.
gabbles
03-10-2010, 08:39 AM
Be free Hannah :hug:
Bowwowmeow
03-22-2010, 09:08 PM
My job sucks. Bennett has passed away. He was a sweet little old bunny who lived with Laddie and Jezebel, a pair of Border Collies I've been taking care of for eight years. I always went in to visit with Bennett after bringing the dogs back from their outings. He was so sweet and cuddly. I don't know how much more of this I can stand. :( :( :(
Gliondrach
03-23-2010, 04:13 AM
Poor little Bennett.
Your line of work needs people like you, rather than people who just do it as a job. But people like you are too sensitive and suffer when your charges suffer. It's good for those you look after but not always good for you.
gabbles
03-23-2010, 05:14 PM
:hug:
Bowwowmeow
03-23-2010, 05:22 PM
Thanks. I am still crying when I go to Boots' house and there is no Hannah. His Dad has left Hannah's kitty stuff out for his girlfriend's cats to use I guess, but it just looks like Hannah is still around.
snaffler
03-24-2010, 03:55 AM
Myself and Suzi always send people the Rainbow Bridge Poem, I hope this helps.
Rainbow Bridge
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....
Author unknown...
Bowwowmeow
03-24-2010, 02:21 PM
Thank you Snaffler. That brings another tear to my eye. I'll have an awfully big group of friends by the time I get there, if there is such a place.
Bowwowmeow
07-02-2010, 08:32 PM
Well no one has died, but it feels like it. Today was my last day on the job. I knew it would be bad, which is why kept the business so long. I just has no idea how very bad. :( :( :(
nagev
07-02-2010, 09:30 PM
:hug:
Gliondrach
07-03-2010, 03:22 AM
:hug: A lot of dogs, cats and other beasties have had better lives because of your business.
You might now go on to do even more good for more beings in other ways.
Bowwowmeow
07-03-2010, 10:49 AM
Thanks you two. I have this hollow feeling in my tummy. I'm hungry, but I can't eat. I guess time will make it better eventually.
Bowwowmeow
12-02-2010, 07:22 PM
My Dad's dog died. I always thought of him as my brother. :(
Gliondrach
12-03-2010, 01:51 AM
Sorry to hear that. :hug:
I hope you and your dad are bearing up.
Bowwowmeow
12-03-2010, 10:03 AM
Thank you. Not too well actually. My Dad is taking this very hard, and I am upset for him, and for my own sense of loss too. :(
Gliondrach
12-03-2010, 11:03 AM
How old was he?
My darling Mandy 'died' 33 years ago and I still think about her every day. But I have the comfort of believing that those who die have just transferred to another reality or dimension. I dream about her quite often, too. Perhaps some of them are not just dreams.
I know you don't believe in those things but does your dad? If he does, it would probably comfort him to talk to his doggie friend and send him thoughts of love.
I've been sending you both good thoughts.
Bowwowmeow
12-03-2010, 12:28 PM
Actually my Dad is a more materialistic atheist than I am. I do not believe in a god, but I do not discount the possibility of continued existence on other planes or dimensions. There is so much none of us will ever know, til we get there. Or don't. I don't think our present state of consciousness can understand everything we experience, but I do try to avoid making interpretations and explanations of things I do not fully understand.
Not the most comforting belief.
Duncan was 14. He was my Dad's first "very own" dog. My Gramma wouldn't let my Dad have a dog while growing up, but we had a few family dogs starting from when I was little. He was divorced from my Mom before they died though. Duncan was supposed to have been my stepMom's dog primarily, but she isn't the most responsible sort, and Duncan soon became "Dad's boy". My dad is still going through that feeling of expecting to see him lying on the hearth, or listening for sounds in the night of him maybe needing to go outside and go potty, those sorts of things. My stepMom works twelve hour days, so the house seems empty now, to my Dad. It's just a very hard stage to go through right now.
For me, he, Fod, and Daisy were my Three Musketeers. Now Daisy is the only one left. We all know it is the way of dogs to have to leave us, but that doesn't make it any easier when the time comes.
I always took care of Duncan whenever my Dad and stepMom traveled, and when I lived only a few blocks away, would "kidnap" him and take him with us to the dog park during the day, while my Dad was at his studio. Then Dad would come home, and Duncan would "tell" him all about it so excitedly that he knew I must have been there and taken him, even if I didn't mention it. I got into the habit later of calling him in the evening and asking him if Duncan had anything to tell him about, and he always did. Duncan also just liked to hop in my truck for a ride around the block, if nothing else, even though he hated riding along if my dad was driving. He was such a funny little guy.
http://i2.photobucket.com/albums/y31/lauralb/Family/Duncan.jpg?t=1291408115
Gliondrach
12-03-2010, 03:10 PM
Duncan was a nice doggie. He looks quite big in that picture. Not because it's a close up - he just looks like someone bigger than small.
I like the thought of him telling your dad about his days in the park. :)
Bowwowmeow
12-04-2010, 11:29 AM
A Wheaten terrier is on the big side, for terriers I guess. He was about forty pounds. Mostly hair.
Gliondrach
12-04-2010, 11:42 AM
Yes, that's quite big.
nagev
12-06-2010, 03:34 PM
Sorry for your loss. :(
Losing friends and family is always difficult.
Bowwowmeow
12-07-2010, 01:24 PM
Thank you. Yes it is.
gabbles
12-08-2010, 09:04 AM
Sorry to hear about your loss of Duncan.
Bowwowmeow
12-09-2010, 05:11 PM
Thank you gabbles.
Gliondrach
12-11-2010, 11:48 AM
How's your Dad now?
Bowwowmeow
12-11-2010, 12:19 PM
Oh he's ok for the most part. It won't go away though. He and I are very similar, in that we seem to be in a state of grief for ever, once we lose someone we love. No real moving on past it like most people do. It stays there under the surface, waiting to surprise you over and over. :(
Gliondrach
12-11-2010, 01:23 PM
That must be terrible. :hug:
nagev
12-11-2010, 02:19 PM
Oh he's ok for the most part. It won't go away though. He and I are very similar, in that we seem to be in a state of grief for ever, once we lose someone we love. No real moving on past it like most people do. It stays there under the surface, waiting to surprise you over and over. :(
I think I have similar tendencies. I still remember every animal I lived with and when or how they died plus the last time I saw them alive. :(
Bowwowmeow
12-13-2010, 04:45 PM
I think I have similar tendencies. I still remember every animal I lived with and when or how they died plus the last time I saw them alive. :(
I can still remember certain roadkill I've seen. I'll never get used to seeing dead animals on the road. :(
Gliondrach
12-14-2010, 01:50 AM
There are methods for dealing with bad visual (and other) memories. One way is to change the scene whenever it comes into your mind. Change it so it is not so troubling. You could make it smaller and/or further away, darker, out of focus, etc., until it no longer affects you in the same way. And then do that if it comes back in its troubling form. Sometimes, you can change it the first time. Or you might have to keep doing it until it loses its power.
Bowwowmeow
12-14-2010, 09:18 AM
Well I guess it is hard to explain, but I feel it is out of a sense of loyalty are remembrance that I don't want to forget these things, or stop feeling bad. It's not as if it ruins my life. It does change it, but I wouldn't really want to be the sort of person who can see and feel and not change from it. I don't suppose it matters to the dead, but it matters to me that no one else cares I guess.
Gliondrach
12-14-2010, 09:48 AM
I think we all feel the same way here. But if it affects someone's day to day living it's not good.
I really meant it to apply to the dead bodies you see on the roads. You never want to forget loved ones. But, even with them, it is not useful to have strong bad memories. Better to dwell on the good ones and reduce the affects of the bad ones.
Having strong unpleasant memories is a bit like PTSD.
Bowwowmeow
12-14-2010, 10:27 AM
Well I was thinking of the dead animals on the roads too, with no one to care for them or mourn them. Someone has to. In my view, anyway. The world is so pitiless.
Gliondrach
12-14-2010, 03:27 PM
When I see dead birds or rats I tell myself that they are beyond any suffering.
I remember coming home once when I was young and telling my mom someone had died that day. What I told her it was a squirrel on the road her sympathetic compassion turned to "oh who cares it's just roadkill". I remember thinking that day that maybe I was the only one that thought animals dying was just as awful as humans dying. I'm glad I was proven wrong!
I'm not at all religious but deep down I like to think that I'll see my dog again in heaven.
manzana
08-17-2011, 09:09 AM
Speaking of roadkill, here's a picture (http://i281.photobucket.com/albums/kk228/boogerbear4/COYOTE.jpg) of a coyote that wandered onto a racetrack.
Gliondrach
08-17-2011, 09:52 AM
I'm not at all religious but deep down I like to think that I'll see my dog again in heaven.
I'm sure you will see your doggy friend again.
I'm sure you will see your doggy friend again.
I hope so!
People do seem callous at times, I think it comes from fear of emotions rather than a lack.
I don't know how you can have animals in your life and not feel a bond with them but personally I feel responsible for mine and try to think about their life from their perspective.
I remember reading something in an animal hospital while I was caring for my 8 week old kitten who is now my 4 1/2 year old cat. It said something to the effect that people have jobs, cars, friends, aspirations, chores and everything else that goes on in life and your animals have you... so when you wonder why they want your attention or to be near you, you are their whole world.
I had a cat I had to put down at 17, he was suffering and it was hard, but the vet came to my home and put him to sleep while he laid on my chest. One of the hardest things I have had to do in my life. But, he was there for me since I was 11 years old. He remembered me when I came home at age 16 after being gone for two years and he waited for me every night on the balcony until I came home. Its weird, but I have his ashes in a cedar box next to my bed.
Someone I know pretty well, loves animals and understands the grief people go through when they suffer a loss.
http://pet-loss-therapy.com/Default.aspx
Gliondrach
08-28-2011, 07:08 AM
Its weird, but I have his ashes in a cedar box next to my bed.
I don't think it's weird.
That seems like a very useful service your friend provides.
angelina1104
09-27-2011, 05:37 AM
Hi I just saw this thread, and although it's old I thought it would be good to let UK (plus Northern Ireland) residents know that the charity Blue Cross provide a pet bereavement support service.
Their telephone number is: 0800 096 6606 (free to landline users)
Here's a link to the Blue Cross pet bereavement page:
http://www.bluecross.org.uk/2083/pet-bereavement-support-service.html
Gliondrach
09-27-2011, 02:48 PM
Another good resource. Thanks for posting it.
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